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Jul 24, 2015 07:32:54   #
jbweaver
 
I pray and ask God for guidance and the strength to get through the hard times. It has always brought me peace.
 
Jul 24, 2015 07:41:19   #
Knitting Gamma
 
Take a walk and talk to God always works for me
Jul 24, 2015 07:42:02   #
P. Winter
 
I am so sorry you are feeling down. I get like this frequently from the same things that you seem to struggle with- the world, people's harshness, and lost or broken treasures. After crying, dragging around, looking for substitutes, I finally remember the Great Healer who welcomes us to Him in prayer and comforts us with His Word. There is no better explanation to the ills of the world than can be answered in the Bible. Basically, in this world we will have trouble but Jesus overcame the world so that through Him we can know peace. So after or during a cleansing cry comfy up with something good and talk to Jesus.&#128591;&#127996; If you don't know Him find a good, grounded church where a knowledgable pastor can help you. Jesus Christ is the delight of my life.
Hang in there&#128521;.
Jul 24, 2015 07:49:49   #
NRoberts (a regular here)
 
theyarnlady wrote:
I wonder what one does when hurt angry sad or just can't stand what is happening in your world.

At times I look at it like hey they do not know me and my life and their words do not define who I am.

If it is a small thing I knit with tight stitches, read a book think on it and say not worth my time.

If it is objects broken and more then one, I talk to myself and try to figure out away to fix it . Which does not always work. Then take it to someone who can fix it.


Do something nice for someone else. Try to do something kind and nice every day. It will change your attitude.

Just finishing a free course on Coursera.org called How to have a life of happiness and fulfillment. I highly recommend it. You may have to wait for it to be offered again, as it is in its last week. However, if you hurry, you may be able to register. Once you are in the course, you have access to the video lectures for quite a while after the course ends.
Jul 24, 2015 07:54:27   #
knitteerli
 
I wish I could find some soothing way to rebalance myself when things are going badly, for I tend to stew over some things, which generally would have ended fine without my stewing, so I've wasted a lot of time in misery for nothing. Stewing and fretting do not help me at all, but doing something practical does, and it keeps me occupied and often distracted from the problem for a while at least.
Jul 24, 2015 07:55:49   #
janicebell
 
I eat a piece of chocolate. If that doesn't work I might have a good cry. Then think about what I can do.
 
Jul 24, 2015 07:56:11   #
knit4zen
 
StitchDesigner wrote:
This is a sure way to make things worse. The only solution that will really work 100% of the time is to pray as though Hurricane Katrina is knocking at your door and you are the only person between it and your babies and prayer is the only thing you can do. If someone hurts you, you must forgive them. You must. It's not optional. If you don't the resulting anger will not hurt them one iota. But it will eat you alive. With true forgiveness will come peace. Then ask God to bless, yes, bless, that person. None of this may be possible at the very first, but it is still the only thing that really works.
This is a sure way to make things worse. The only... (show quote)


Yes, I agree, prayer is the answer. I fall to the "I'm in control and I can fix this" and then realize I'm not, but God is and then I pray. Hand over your woes and troubles to God and try not to take it back, but if you do, just give it back and pray again.
Jul 24, 2015 08:03:48   #
P. Winter
 
Okay, now that I've read more of the thread, I THINK I see some of what you're getting at. Sounds like your dealing with some nasty little gossips. I've had that. Haven't we all? I try to just turn away, avoid them and associate with people who enjoy things besides running others down. Praying for them helps though a bitter pill at first. We are all sinners and can more easily pick out the speck in someone else's eye than the log in our own.
Jul 24, 2015 08:13:11   #
Rosannehug
 
I pray, and find a friend I can talk to, someone whom I trust and who will really listen to my concerns. Hope that helps
Jul 24, 2015 08:18:30   #
ANENOME
 
Irish knitter wrote:
I tried so hard to do everything to get my daughter to like me.....it does not work. I longed for the relationship we had until she turned 14. Everything was fine. No matter what I do she will never like me or consider me her mother.

I finally gave up and got on with my life. It is so much easier but it still hurts. It took a long time for me to get this far.


'Never' is a very long time :) Sometimes, when daughters become mothers themselves they see their own mothers in a whole new light. May peace surround your heart and time soften the hurt as you get on with your own life. Blessings to you.
Jul 24, 2015 08:23:24   #
Rosannehug
 
Age 14 is when children are still children but think they are adults. Take it from me. I taught HS for 35 years and raised 4 children of my own. They think they know it all and their parents know nothing. It does improve as they mature. They come to realize that you knew a lot more than they gave you credit for. Many of the things you said, that they resented, they now come to realize were correct. Hang in there. She will eventually come around. Pray for yourself and for her.
 
Jul 24, 2015 08:27:47   #
Jean Keith
 
Irish knitter wrote:
I tried so hard to do everything to get my daughter to like me.....it does not work. I longed for the relationship we had until she turned 14. Everything was fine. No matter what I do she will never like me or consider me her mother.

I finally gave up and got on with my life. It is so much easier but it still hurts. It took a long time for me to get this far.


If you raise girls, you are sure to go through this. Teenage girls are a law unto themselves and a mother is the very least thing of any value to them. So be it. They know more than anyone and their problems they feel are unique. It gets better, especially when they have made decisions that have gotten them into a real bind. Learning to accept responsibility is a hard lesson for them. At this time, usually Mama becomes their port in their storm. I've been there. Keep your faith as it does eventually turn around.
Jul 24, 2015 08:29:57   #
Jean Keith
 
StitchDesigner wrote:
This is a sure way to make things worse. The only solution that will really work 100% of the time is to pray as though Hurricane Katrina is knocking at your door and you are the only person between it and your babies and prayer is the only thing you can do. If someone hurts you, you must forgive them. You must. It's not optional. If you don't the resulting anger will not hurt them one iota. But it will eat you alive. With true forgiveness will come peace. Then ask God to bless, yes, bless, that person. None of this may be possible at the very first, but it is still the only thing that really works.
This is a sure way to make things worse. The only... (show quote)


Amen.
Jul 24, 2015 08:32:45   #
dauntiekay (a regular here)
 
pamjlee wrote:
I usually have a good cry, more if I need it then when I have settled down a bit, this may be days, I start going for long walks and try to pull mysself together.


I truly believe in the long walk therapy --as it is one of the best ways to think through anything going on in your life and it helps you to really get to know yourself better than before. Many times I have found solutions to situations in my life as well as those involved in my life by just taking a long walk.
Jul 24, 2015 08:35:07   #
cc1945
 
When life gives me lemons, I remind myself to be grateful for all the blessings I have in my life, look at little things, a smile from someone, a hug, a sweet note etc.
I am always determined that a downward spiral will not define my life and I will pick myself up and make the most of my life. Also, each day find a way to make someone happy, do a good deed, be kind etc. To relax, I walk and at night I knit. All the best wishes for peace in your heart!
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