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Jun 25, 2017 08:47:50   #
Metrogal (a regular here)
 
I see that as more of a compliment rather than "being nervy." He obviously liked your knitting. Also...if a father is 6'10" (I also have a cousin that tall), you KNOW the baby is going to be bigger. I have a friend who is 6'1" and her husband is 6'3". I just knitted a baby sweater for their new baby born in March. I made a 12 month size and he's already wearing it. When I had my son, he was 9 1/2 pounds. My friends gave me a shower when I got back to work, and my best friend gave me a N/B tiny green outfit with pink flowers on it. REALLY???
 
Jun 25, 2017 09:04:54   #
pawestiegirl
 
I guess I'm old-fashioned. But if I give someone a gift, I do expect a Thank You. If I give it in person, then a spoken thank you. If I mail someone a gift, I like to at least know that it arrived. This is particularly irksome when it is my granddaughter. I see her once a year, if that (they live far away), and she never talks to me on the phone. So, if I send her something, I'd like her to at least send me an email saying she got the gift. We stopped giving to relatives children because we never heard from them. When my granddaughter sent me a written thank you after her birthday, I emailed her telling her how much I appreciated that. And I also wrote to my DIL and thanked her for teaching my GD to do so.
Jun 25, 2017 09:28:01   #
condogoddess
 
If I don't get at least a thank you, that person will NEVER again get anything knit from me. Period. As for the father of said child, ignore his comment and move on.
Jun 25, 2017 09:34:41   #
romagica
 
charliesaunt wrote:
Personally, I would knit a hat for both the baby and the father for the winter and pin a note to the father's hat TWINS?


Cute. :)
Jun 25, 2017 09:49:20   #
JeanSher
 
Ablenewlife, agree with most of these answers, charbooth gave me a chuckle. Think we all know people like that. I have lived with one for 40 years. He says thank you, but ads how it could have been done better. Sorry to say most of the world is generally ungrateful. Children who aren't taught gratitude grow up to be ungrateful adults who seem to "expect" the world to "give" them things and a lot of them expect us to supply a living as well. Best result is making sure WE always say "Thank You" ourselves. A good example works better than aggravation, and is less stressful on us.
Jun 25, 2017 09:51:15   #
cheron16
 
A lot of people just don't like hand knits.They simply don't get the time and effort put ini a specially if they don't do a craft themselves .
 
Jun 25, 2017 09:59:49   #
Pam in LR
 
I think tiny booties are nice to hang on a tree at baby's first Christmas. Or, the whole ensemble could be put on a doll or stuffed animal for a precious memento.
Jun 25, 2017 10:26:51   #
tonyastewart
 
Well might as well make myself unpopular, if you did it to get in good with grampa you started off doing it for the wrong reason. Also, making a gift for sake of giving is great making it for the sake of a thank you is selfish and defeats the point of giving. Always give expecting nothing then anything you get is a thank you. When I read original post I was sad that a child was getting a gift to impress grampa not because of a lovely new birth.
You get what you give in this world and you gave for the wrong reason.
Jun 25, 2017 10:35:31   #
bakrmom (a regular here)
 
Susanc241 wrote:
I read the OP as the dad suggested she could make a sweater (that fitted) or blanket for the baby, not for the father himself?


That's how I took it too. Again, I think this is a case of setting yourself up for failure. She didn't know this guy(he was her contractor), doesn't know the mom, really has no reason to be giving a gift(awkward receiving a gift from a stranger). Even a big baby isn't enormous( we had 9+ lb gks) so unless the items were really small they should fit a newborn even if it only for the first week or so.
I see so many people making quilts, afghans, sweater for " my grandson's girlfriend's sister's best friend" that's pregnant. then they get insulted when the gift isn't well received. Think people!
yes thank you's are nice( and proper) but once you give a gift-it's gone! asking for it back is just as rude as no thank you.
Jun 25, 2017 10:51:03   #
SQM (a regular here)
 
circak wrote:
Here we go again with people who don't understand all the blood sweat and tears that go into knitting a gift for someone, and who by their actions appear not to appreciate the effort. Yes knitting is our hobby but nonetheless we put a lot into it and a thank you goes a long way to encourage us to do it again. I was personally disappointed by the lack of a graduation thank you this year for money I had given a graduate.
I just don't appreciate it when able bodied recipients fail to make this simple but important gesture. This is my opinion.
Here we go again with people who don't understand ... (show quote)


My nephew did the same to me recently when he graduated. Last gift for him. All he had to do was text or have my niece do it. Silence
Jun 25, 2017 11:12:41   #
lawstevens
 
I had a similar situation. Created the cutest little monkey outfit for a newborn. I never learned if it fit or not. The end result, never making another thing for that family.
I do think about it occasionally and wonder what it looked like on the baby. At least you learned it didn't fit. If I knew that I could have just made a bigger set and exchanged it.
 
Jun 25, 2017 11:26:16   #
Dottie Kon
 
These people who are not sending or saying thank yous are not to blame. Obviously they weren't raised that way! It was always instilled in my brother and me to WRITE a thank you note. Words were okay but they were to be followed by a hand written one. Even with computers and email, a handwritten note is the proper way to thank someone for any gift. Our children have followed that training and my niece even hand makes the thank yous which is really special!

A dear friend recently was killed in an auto accident and at her funeral reception one of her grandsons asked how many of the attendees had received a hand written letter from his grandmother. Quite a few hands went up. He then said, "To those of you who received a letter, you know how special they are...to those of you who didn't, I'm sorry you missed out on something beautiful!" What a nice tribute to his grandma.
Jun 25, 2017 11:32:19   #
jinx (a regular here)
 
Thank you for posting this.
Quote from Merriam Webster Dictionary: Gift ": something voluntarily transferred by one person to another without compensation." Yes, without compensation.
tonyastewart wrote:
Well might as well make myself unpopular, if you did it to get in good with grampa you started off doing it for the wrong reason. Also, making a gift for sake of giving is great making it for the sake of a thank you is selfish and defeats the point of giving. Always give expecting nothing then anything you get is a thank you. When I read original post I was sad that a child was getting a gift to impress grampa not because of a lovely new birth.
You get what you give in this world and you gave for the wrong reason.
Well might as well make myself unpopular, if you d... (show quote)
Jun 25, 2017 11:33:51   #
GrandmaSuzy
 
janetj54 wrote:
That is the reason that I only knit afghans for babies no size needed.



Same here. I made afghans for each of my dog groomer's babies and she not only told me thank you in person, she also sent a note! OTH, I've stopped sending money to grown grandchildren because I never get a thank you note, or even a phone call.

Suzy in Southern Illinois
Jun 25, 2017 11:35:45   #
hildy3 (a regular here)
 
If you expect accolades for your work, be prepared to be disappointed, or put a note in saying..."A thank you is expected." I give from the heart and I donate to the Baby/neonatal ward at the hospital. I make a blanket 45 X45, hat, mitts and a tiny washable toy....all tied with yarn in corner and rolled up in tissue. The joy I get is when the nurse on duty says they need more. My biggest joy was when she told me a young couple walked out with baby wrapped in Daddy's workshirt and she gave them my set. I was so moved tears came to my eyes and that was enough. Give anonymously and expect nothing in return except a great feeling!
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