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Sep 15, 2018 12:01:13   #
Lena B
 
Doesn’t look good for her today she is having another blood transfusion seems she is being kept alive with this, she has been thru so much just had her 87 th birthday.
She still refuses to eat and drink , she does choose her food from a menu but when it comes she says I cannot eat this, so sounds like she is giving up.this is about 6 weeks she has been in hosp thankgoodness she is not in the US. She would be bankrupt.
She went to the bathroom using the Zimmer walker and had to ring for a nurse this one was very short with her saying “what do you expect you will not eat or drink” so sound like the nurses are also frustrated with her. Reduses physio saying she doesn’t feel good so they leave her alone also not good.
Her D was up from England for a week I talked 2 times with her she is very upset. As nothing she said or did worked for her mum. She is very stubborn her son said she is like a child, so not a good situation all around.
My H said he is dreading going to visit her. So please pray she will get herself together and fight more. Thanks Lena
 
Sep 15, 2018 12:06:47   #
kittykatzmom (a regular here)
 
I do feel sorry for her and sounds like she has given up. I just said a prayer that she will have the will to live. Sad situation. Good luck. HUGS
Sep 15, 2018 12:11:03   #
Alanan
 
So sorry to hear this. Unfortunately if she is refusing treatment there is not much you can do, except be there for her,
Sep 15, 2018 12:13:00   #
grannybell (a regular here)
 
Adding my prayers for your friend and her family. Hopefully those around her will tell her she is loved and special to them.
Sep 15, 2018 12:17:28   #
susandkline (a regular here)
 
It's very sad and I'm glad that I haven't faced this. Sometimes people are ready to go and there is nothing that can be done. Has she been offered the option of tube feeding? My great aunt had this. A surgical procedure was done and liquid food was given right into her stomach. I don't know if it enhanced her few remaining years, but it can be an option.
Sep 15, 2018 12:19:03   #
Hudson (a regular here)
 
I know how hard this can be. My mother gave up at age 89.
 
Sep 15, 2018 13:57:39   #
Crochetnknit
 
susandkline wrote:
It's very sad and I'm glad that I haven't faced this. Sometimes people are ready to go and there is nothing that can be done. Has she been offered the option of tube feeding? My great aunt had this. A surgical procedure was done and liquid food was given right into her stomach. I don't know if it enhanced her few remaining years, but it can be an option.


My father decided he’d had enough after they amputated his leg. He refused to eat or drink. My mother tried but he would camp his mouth shut. Put feeding tube in, he pulled it out, twice!

They kept giving him fluids via IV and it took 6 weeks for him to pass on.

He made his wishes known but since he had not entered the hospital with a living will stating his wishes, we couldn’t do anything about it.
Sep 15, 2018 15:32:37   #
Lena B
 
This poster” aneesashraf “has posed on my post please put this person on ignore we need to try andstop this spam being on our posts thanks
Sep 15, 2018 15:37:01   #
Lena B
 
She definitely would not have a feeding tube very stressful for her Son and D also her fab neighbour does her washing and told her D she has had enough so hoping I can see her in oct.
Sep 15, 2018 17:40:09   #
Sjlegrandma (a regular here)
 
Although it is distressing for her family and friends at her age she has a right to make that decision and refuse to eat and not want invasive treatment. Sometimes people have just had enough living. Be at peace with her decision as after all it is her life.
Sep 15, 2018 22:47:29   #
crafterwantabe (a regular here)
 
Prayers for all
 
Sep 16, 2018 06:30:51   #
knitteerli
 
I hope I have a right to decide for myself at that age whether to continue treatment or not. I’ll have nighties printed with the logo “Away an Geez Peace! “.
Sep 16, 2018 07:04:28   #
Colour wheel
 
Just be there for her without putting pressure on her to do anything other than what she desires. It's her body and obviously her wish.
Ask yourself whose needs you're hoping to meet.
Sep 16, 2018 09:19:49   #
JoanDL
 
Although it is hard to watch as your loved declines, as we age, the body systems don't process food in the same way. Eating can actually become more uncomfortable. Elimination often means laxatives, enemas and other uncomfortable processes. Quality of life rather quantity can mean more to some. Try to spend your time with your loved one in ways that don't focus on food.
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