I'm Going To Kill Him (Rant)
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My husband is driving me nuts and it's not a far trip! He noticed a I was in a tizzy (which was unusual for him, unless I run for some political office ... even dog catcher) he doesn't notice I'm around. He asked me what was wrong and since it took me more than 4 words to explain it and sighed and shuffled from foot to foot saying he wanted to check something on the car before supper. I told him if he didn't want to know what was wrong, why did he bother asking? He went into the garage, slammed the door and we will have another night of silence. Oh well, it's winter, isn't that the time to sing Silent Night?
My husband is driving me nuts and it's not a far t... (
So sorry. Peace and quiet doesn’t help you get something off your chest. Do you have someone to call who will let you vent?
I am sure this too will pass. Sorry I can't be of more help to you.
Sounds like my house, most times.🙄
Sorry for you.
But luckily my hubby had supper & has zonked out in his chair.
I need to go run a load of laundry & bake a dessert for a party for tom. at noon. Need to run dishwasher.
But my favorite Friday night shows begin at 8, can’t wait. Maybe my hubby will sleep thru it. 🙂
I'm so sorry, I wish I could help.
I once told DH that since he wasn't going to listen to me, then I wasn't going to listen to him. And then I didn't! Whoa, he got OFFENDED when I didn't listen to what he was talking about. Now he listens to me a heck of a lot better. And his habit of nagging me about different things---like the tv shows I watch, how I cheat on my diet, etc? I told him that I was going to do that to him---and I promptly began to nag him about his annoying habits. I've also done this method when it comes to his habit of yelling. This has helped things immensely. It's amazing how turnabout helps things... (heh heh heh)
We all get mad at our loved ones occasionally. Why are you in such a “tizzy”?
hhaha I had a friend like this........she wrote her complain to her man and placed the letter in his sandwich.
(This worked 100%) I also understand the foot to foot shuffling...........it is a man thing I think.
Have any snow on the ground where you are at? Throwing snowballs as far as you can is cathartic. When my former husband would get me into such a state, I would take 4 coffee cups that we had, out on the back porch and hurl them as far as I could. They were indestructible and helped me hold onto sanity more than a few times.
You call yourself doglady so I assume you have a dog. Take your dog for a walk and tell , him , her, all your woes, it’s remarkable what good listeners dogs are. My little one is fourteen now and it is amazing how much she understands, and the sympathy she gives.
Sorry, men can be so aggravating. My husband is hard of hearing (very). He has hearing aids, but they bother him, and I understand this. Anyway he will turn them down and so I still need to repeat myself numerous times. Sometimes this is too much for me, to say the least. But that's my problem not yours. If I were you, don't wait for your husband to notice your upset and get mad when he doesn't notice when you think he should. Just realize, men are idiots, and they really don't want to talk about 'what's wrong' because they are completely clueless as to what to do about it. If you want him to listen, ask him 'you know what happened to me today? Or whatever question might apply. Hope it gets better. You really don't want silence.
Men! That all I can say. They just don’t get us..
God. My life before DH developed dementia. And now that it's a constant companion, he isn't any different except his words are foul & he can't remember any explanation I might offer to his question. And his affect is either flat or totally pissed. DD rarely communicates & goes into a 12 year old's emotional spiral if I share another milestone of loss on her Dad's journey. And since I'm an alcoholic-addict who once lied to her, and everyone else, about that because of my deep shame, I have no real right in her eyes to feel bad about watching DH,who I do love, go down. 16 years of sobriety count for nothing. The AA Big Book says resentment is our number one killer & I know I can't stay here. But I'm feeling it right now. She couldn't see us at Thanksgiving because it was too stressful. They have no children or pets. Haven't heard from her since New Year's Eve. Texted a how are you? They're in Chicago visiting friends. Have been up there all week. They drove. From Columbus. But no time to see us. I know I can't do anything about it. But it does hurt. There isn't a solution. It just is. She's 42 & selfish I guess. But thanks for listening.