In need of some sympathy from fellow knitters
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I just am so sad and I know that no one else but my friends here on KP will understand my feelings. My daughter in law is the director of a charter school and every year they do a fund raising event at which they do a silent auction. People in the community donate services or items and then people at the event bid on the items. The value of the item is stated and a starting bid is given. Last year I had donated a stuffed animal that I had crocheted along with a couple of pairs of knitted children's socks. My daughter in law put them in a basket, added a couple of small games and put it up for bid as a children's basket. That was fine. This year I wanted to do something better. So I worked for months on a LEGO blanket. It was very bright in LEGO colors and I thought it was quite amazing, even if I do say so myself. My sister offered me $100 for it, but I said I was making it for the school fund raiser and I didn't want to make another. It really was quite a time-consuming project. Anyway, I gave the blanket to my daughter in law a month ago and she seemed pleased to get it. So today I went to the event. When I came to the basket that held my blanket, I saw that it had been combined with a Lego set donated by someone else. I would have estimated that the Lego set was probably worth $25. My blanket was folded up and stuffed into the basket so that you couldn't even see what it was, or that it looked like actual lego blocks, or that it actually SAID LEGO. The Lego set was laid on top of it so that was mostly what you saw. The paper that you bid on said "Lego set and blanket" (nothing about handmade), the estimated value was $25, and opening bid was $5. Now I know that my daughter in law does all the actual arranging of the baskets and sets them all up. So I cannot fool myself that maybe someone else didn't know anything about where the blanket came from. So by that reckoning, the Lego set was worth $25, and the blanket was worth . . . . . nothing. I was so disappointed I had a hard time keeping it together. The bidding was up to $12. We finished looking at all the rest of the baskets and even though we had planned on staying at the event for a couple of hours, I asked my husband if he minded if we left. So we just came home. I felt really immature at wanting to leave, but just didn't want to sit there. Now I have to face my daughter in law at Easter, and I'm wondering what to say if she asks why we left so soon from the event. What do I say?????? My husband knows how hard I worked on that blanket and agrees with me that it was certainly worth a lot more than NOTHING, but he would never say anything to her. I'm not looking for vindication, just some sympathy. You are the only people in the world who would get how I feel.
I think you have to be honest with her and tell her how long and hard you worked on the blanket. The cost of the yarn adding to the cost. Act as though she may not have realized the value and you had to leave before you saw what it went for. Next time, tell her what the item should sell for on its own and then she can add what she wants to in the basket and charge appropriately.
Ouch! I would be hurt to the quick. What a slap in the face. You have my sympathy. Tell your dil that you won't be giving her anymore donations for this event and tell her why. She was actually cheating the fundraising by putting such a low price on it!
I can surely sympathize with you some people just do not appreciate hand made items any more. So sorry when you gave it such attention making it.
I would mention to your D in L how disappointed the display was of your item . MYbe she had no control over this
I do not crochet so know the work and hours you put into making this hugs to you
I am so lucky when I donate to the Dialysis center the nurse is always so happy to receive what I have knitted. The one reason Ido not so craft fairs any more. Maybe find another charity to knit for next yr or this yr.
tell her the truth about how you felt, how hurt you where.
We all sympathize with you. It hurts, so just remember it as another bump in the road of life. My heart goes out to you.
You certainly have my sympathy Colleen May. I think I would have stayed and bid on the item myself. This way I would be contributing to the cause and have the chance at Easter to explain that I knew the "cause" was entitled to more than was being asked.
I think that I would not say anything but I would not contribute again.
That blanket given to a charity would be much more appreciated.
I do sympathize with you and I am sorry that you and your work were not given the respect deserved.
You must be feeling so upset, I do hope that who ever got it will be thrilled though and I have to agree with bp above, be honest with your daughter in law,
People who do not do handwork have no idea of the time that goes into making such and item plus the cost of the yarn. I knit so I truly understand your feelings on this.
I often am upset when I see what happens to things that are donated, but once it leaves my hands I have nothing to say about it. I agree that the package should have been displayed differently so that the blanket was also featured. You can either tell your DIL and take the chance that she will be mad at you; keep feeling hurt and that will lead to being mad at your DIL; or forget about it and not donate again.
I would have bid on it.
As hard as it may be, tell her the truth.
I can only imagine how hurt you were, I would be.
You were wise to post how you feel here. I feel terrible for you. It's a shame that non knitters/crocheters don't realize all of the time, effort, love and money that goes into the craft. I hope you find a way to talk to her about how you feel, because she is family, and that you walk away as friends.
It should have been draped over a chalir or table so people could actually see how beautiful it was and a sign that said'Handmade'.I was just at a church craft sale this am and the handmade knitting and crochet items were not selling(of course,the bake sale items were,$6 for a few cookies or squares and they were selling out).The handmade articles were $6- $12.A lot of work went into making them,.I know the value of these articles.I may just phone the church and tell them that I will purchase all the frogs,rabbits and little hens and donate them to a charity.The food items would be gobbled up quickly but the yarn crafts will live in the memories of a lot of children.My rant for today.Colleenmay,my heart goes out to you.🕊🇨🇦
We do sympathize with you. One of the reasons I quit doing art/craft shows was that very few know how much time and money goes into hand made projects, whatever medium.