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Jul 21, 2019 09:08:17   #
LibraryGal (a regular here)
 
Oh, Charlotte, I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with this. I understand. While it wasn't my husband, but my MIL, the situation is quite similar - even the well-meaning second guessers. Please know you are receiving prayers for all of you. Take care of yourself.
 
Jul 21, 2019 09:08:47   #
bbohlman
 
Prayers for you by me. I can understand a little of what you are going through. My DH and I ( we are 84) are caring for my 75 year old sister who has alzheimers/dementia. It is not easy.
Jul 21, 2019 09:12:12   #
knit4zen
 
So sorry for you difficult situation. It is such an awful disease. You and your husband are in my prayers.
Jul 21, 2019 09:12:22   #
boring knit (a regular here)
 
What a rotten time you are having. I hope that this settles down soon. Kind thoughts are coming your way.
Jul 21, 2019 09:13:18   #
knityknot (a regular here)
 
My prayers are with you and your family.
Jul 21, 2019 09:24:15   #
whitetail
 
Prayers for all you are going through, and prayers of course for your husband, this is horrible he needs care and you need good support around you.
 
Jul 21, 2019 09:42:28   #
Patty Sutter (a regular here)
 
Prayers
Jul 21, 2019 09:48:41   #
martina (a regular here)
 
charbaby wrote:
DH was diagnosed with Alzheimer's & frontotemporal lobe dementia 2 years ago. Getting him to listen & follow direction has been next to impossible. When I was in the bathroom Wednesday early evening he decided to go out & sweep the front steps. I came out of the john & heard him fussing & swearing. He was leaning up against the heavy wooden railing. I helped him back in the house. He complained of right leg pain & had an abrasion on his outer left elbow. I don't know what the hell he did. And his verbal skills are so impaired he gropes for words & never gets there. He walked Wednesday night & all day Thursday into early Friday morning with my help & the walker. Started last night complaining of left leg pain & inability to move his feet when standing. But he could stand if I helped him up. Today, no walking, no standing, no ability to know when he had to urinate. Very confused, more so than lately. So against his pleadings & threats, I called the local rescue squad & brought him to the ER. The CT scan shows a fractured left femur right at the neck under the hip joint. Exactly how his Dad, then his Mom fractured theirs. Papa was gone in a week. Mama died 3 months after her surgery. Pa was 89; Mama 97. Frank will be 79 on the 24th. His health hasn't been good. Our DD is furious with me because I haven't gotten us moved to Columbus. I was reluctant because if she's too busy to pick up her ever present I phone & call once a week, what kind of support could I expect in a city where they are the only 2 people I know? But somehow his dementia & his fracture is my fault. I'm really at my wit's end tonight. Surgery is in the morning around 11. Please, if you're the praying kind to the God of your understanding, remember us in your prayers tonight. Thanks so much for "listening."
Charlotte
DH was diagnosed with Alzheimer's & frontotemp... (show quote)


Prayers for you both. You can hardly be expected to move without a lot of help and I’m sure it’d confuse your husband even mor if you did. None of this is your fault, your daughter needs to accept this. Take care of yourself. Please keep us updated.
Jul 21, 2019 09:53:29   #
Beachgirl1000 (a regular here)
 
Morgan Girl wrote:
Prayers for all of you. Hopefully surgery has good out come. I second the votes for seeing if you are able to get help once DH is released. You will need it! And while DD means well in wanting you to move closer to her, if she works and also has a family to take care of, how much is she actually going to be able to help you? Also of concern to me is the fact that you have friends where you are, and know nobody there except her. That in itself will make you more isolated then a care giver already ends up being. And big concern to move DH to someplace totally strange. A lot of Alzheimer patients can not take change, and will go rapidly down hill with major upheaval in their lives. just the surgery and the anesthesia and being in hospital for how ever many days, etc. is liable to create issues with him. So, extra prayers for you, and a hug too!
Prayers for all of you. Hopefully surgery has good... (show quote)


What a sensible post! You make some excellent points. Sometimes caregivers find that their impaired loved ones go downhill so gradually that they end up being exhausted because of the escalating symptoms without realizing that it's time to get outside help.
Jul 21, 2019 10:08:08   #
GeriT01 (a regular here)
 
charbaby wrote:
DH was diagnosed with Alzheimer's & frontotemporal lobe dementia 2 years ago. Getting him to listen & follow direction has been next to impossible. When I was in the bathroom Wednesday early evening he decided to go out & sweep the front steps. I came out of the john & heard him fussing & swearing. He was leaning up against the heavy wooden railing. I helped him back in the house. He complained of right leg pain & had an abrasion on his outer left elbow. I don't know what the hell he did. And his verbal skills are so impaired he gropes for words & never gets there. He walked Wednesday night & all day Thursday into early Friday morning with my help & the walker. Started last night complaining of left leg pain & inability to move his feet when standing. But he could stand if I helped him up. Today, no walking, no standing, no ability to know when he had to urinate. Very confused, more so than lately. So against his pleadings & threats, I called the local rescue squad & brought him to the ER. The CT scan shows a fractured left femur right at the neck under the hip joint. Exactly how his Dad, then his Mom fractured theirs. Papa was gone in a week. Mama died 3 months after her surgery. Pa was 89; Mama 97. Frank will be 79 on the 24th. His health hasn't been good. Our DD is furious with me because I haven't gotten us moved to Columbus. I was reluctant because if she's too busy to pick up her ever present I phone & call once a week, what kind of support could I expect in a city where they are the only 2 people I know? But somehow his dementia & his fracture is my fault. I'm really at my wit's end tonight. Surgery is in the morning around 11. Please, if you're the praying kind to the God of your understanding, remember us in your prayers tonight. Thanks so much for "listening."
Charlotte
DH was diagnosed with Alzheimer's & frontotemp... (show quote)


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Jul 21, 2019 10:13:19   #
Hazel Blumberg - McKee (a regular here)
 
Charlotte, I am so sorry for what's going on in your and your husband's lives. I am sending you the most positive of thoughts. Please stay in touch with us, OK?

Thinking of you,
Hazel
 
Jul 21, 2019 10:22:14   #
Ellie RD (a regular here)
 
I will keep you and your DH in my thoughts and wish you both the best in the coming days and weeks. Regarding your DD, just try to ignore her criticism. I can't tell you how many times that I have heard of those who aren't coping with a situation on a daily (usually because of distance) being critical of those who are "in the trenches". I think that you are wise to stay in your current location.
Jul 21, 2019 10:33:51   #
JTM (a regular here)
 
charbaby wrote:
DH was diagnosed with Alzheimer's & frontotemporal lobe dementia 2 years ago. Getting him to listen & follow direction has been next to impossible. When I was in the bathroom Wednesday early evening he decided to go out & sweep the front steps. I came out of the john & heard him fussing & swearing. He was leaning up against the heavy wooden railing. I helped him back in the house. He complained of right leg pain & had an abrasion on his outer left elbow. I don't know what the hell he did. And his verbal skills are so impaired he gropes for words & never gets there. He walked Wednesday night & all day Thursday into early Friday morning with my help & the walker. Started last night complaining of left leg pain & inability to move his feet when standing. But he could stand if I helped him up. Today, no walking, no standing, no ability to know when he had to urinate. Very confused, more so than lately. So against his pleadings & threats, I called the local rescue squad & brought him to the ER. The CT scan shows a fractured left femur right at the neck under the hip joint. Exactly how his Dad, then his Mom fractured theirs. Papa was gone in a week. Mama died 3 months after her surgery. Pa was 89; Mama 97. Frank will be 79 on the 24th. His health hasn't been good. Our DD is furious with me because I haven't gotten us moved to Columbus. I was reluctant because if she's too busy to pick up her ever present I phone & call once a week, what kind of support could I expect in a city where they are the only 2 people I know? But somehow his dementia & his fracture is my fault. I'm really at my wit's end tonight. Surgery is in the morning around 11. Please, if you're the praying kind to the God of your understanding, remember us in your prayers tonight. Thanks so much for "listening."
Charlotte
DH was diagnosed with Alzheimer's & frontotemp... (show quote)
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Prayers for both you and your DH. Your daughter seems to be reacting out of guilt. Ignore her anger. Stay where you can get the support you need.
Jul 21, 2019 10:37:10   #
MrsB (a regular here)
 
Follow your heart and let your DD know that her attitude isn't the least bit helpful or useful in this situation. She is being obtuse .

obΒ·tuse:
1. annoyingly insensitive or slow to understand.

synonyms: stupid, dull, slow-witted, slow, dull-witted, unintelligent, witless, half-baked, halfwitted, doltish, lumpish, blockish, imperceptive
Jul 21, 2019 10:38:34   #
Nilda muniz (a regular here)
 
Reading your message makes me feel so sad because I have an idea of your situation. I had a friend who passed away this past week and he had a bit of dementia but during his last two weeks of his life it got really bad. So, I imagine you wanting/needing to help him at every minute of the day and feeling perhaps unable to help. I do pray and hope you have some assistance from others because it’s too much for one person alone.
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