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I am so sorry you are going through this, I know it is very hard. My husband fell and broke his neck, surgery would too risky, after several falls where I couldn't pick him up, calling 911 so many times for help my son told me to bring him to Florida so that he could take care of him. So he is with my son and I am here in N.J. He is doing very well, getting stronger and getting the best care possible. I go back and forth to visit him but our lives are not what they were. I hope your husband's surgery is successful, get all the help you can because you will need it. (((Hugs)))
I hope the operation goes well for your husband.
Charlotte, I'm so very sorry that you're going through this! If you feel you have more support where you are and where you know people and your resources, then by all means stay where you are! It's YOUR decision!! Your daughter seems to be projecting HER guilt onto you, an all too common coping mechanism...blow it off! Prayers being said and sent! God bless! Keep us informed!
Surgery is rescheduled for noon Monday. The cooling system is on the fritz in the OR ortho room. Cold is imperative to prevent infection. Hot & humid make germs grow. DD & SIL are on their way. If she gets testy on top of being obtuse (my word of the day! 😊) I'm still her Mother. And I am capable of letting her know when she's out of line. My social worker daughter. Sheesh. So DH will get lunch. Then when the meal settles, I'll give him a bed bath & a shave. Spruce him up a bit. He smells a little goat like right now. So we'll both have titanium left hips! We will call ourselves the Titanium Twins! Maybe someone will write a comic book story about us! Shuffling around like Tim Conway's old man, getting age discounts for seniors everywhere by day & taking out phone scammers by night! Thanks, everybody for your prayers and support. I appreciate it more than words can say. I will let you know how he does.
Sending prayers of comfort for both of you. Perhaps he will be able to move to a care facility after his surgery. You need a break in order to take care of both of you and make sound decisions. Your daughter is feeling a little helpless right now, but you and DH are in the best location for you, especially when you need your friends for physical and emotional support. Moving at this time is not optimal. Everything will work out and your DH will be well cared for through his surgery.
Charlotte you will be in my prayers list! And your daughter too!
Sending prayers your way, Charlotte.
Prayers sent. My heart goes out to you! I lost my dad in March from Alzheimer. My mother refused to put him in any kind of assisted living. It was so hard on her; I have no idea how she did it. But, my siblings and I let it be for that was her and my dad's wishes. But, I don't know if I could have done what she did. She is an incredibly strong, strong woman. She will be 84 soon.
I'm sure your daughter, like us, is scared and heartbroken. They say you loose your parent twice with this terrible disease. I whole heartedly believe that. Please, get some kind of in home care even it's just for a bit. My thoughts will be with you.
Prayers for you and your family. Also for the medical team.
I am praying also~
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It’s sad that you have to be apart. Could you not go to Florida too, or is that just not practical. ? It’s good that he’s improving there.
Charlotte, prayers to you for guidance and comfort. Prayers for your husband.
Dear Charlotte, my heart is with you as well my prayers will be also. A lot of good advice here, let your daughter know exactly what is going on and enlist her help. Faith in your doctors and nurses will help you and they will help you with decisions on your hubbys behalf. Take care of yourself too, remember you are important to you and your hubby.
Prayers for you and your hubby.
My hubby has health problems so I understand what you are going through, charbaby. But my husband has no hearing since birth and many health problems that have come from not taking care of himself, which have been escalating in the past few years. Like most men, he does not like to seek health help from doctors, so I have a time convincing him to go to several different doctors, but he does go. That does not mean he listens to the remedies that would make him better. And yes, I understand about the children and their viewpoints on moving to a help facility which means more money out of your pocket. Talking about a problem and living with it are two different stories and until you are there 24/7, you do not understand exactly what is going on. Keep going, keep praying, this is what is called life.
My heart aches for you. Have you tried all the social services in your area or maybe the church? May both of you get some relief.