When I had breast cancer 14 years ago (and again when hubby had kidney cancer followed by bladder cancer a year later - both of us still cancer free) I decided that cancer was a much uglier word than all those that so offend other people. So, those words no longer have any power over me. The only times I am careful about using those words is when I am with someone, usually much older than me (those those people are getting harder to find) or very young children.
An meeting of people during which you knit, or crochet, and chat. My language, sadly, is unreformed.