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Sep 18, 2019 18:21:55   #
riggy
 
So, I knitted these and they've not been used. I'm upset as I found the shawl still in the packing that I used to give it. Grand daughter is now four months old so will not be using a of it. Boo hoo




 
Sep 18, 2019 18:27:05   #
crispie
 
They are all lovely, but don't fret. This happens to so many of us. I have whittled down the list of people I will send hand-knitted items to. Don't be too hard on the recipient-- having a new little one takes up a lot of time, and maybe that is the reason. I, now, directly (and nicely) talk to the recipient and just ask them to return the item, since they don't seem to be able to use it. Your work is lovely and there is someone out there who would love to have the items. I know you put a whole lot of love/work in these, but many people do not realize how much work was needed to create these. Take heart..... we feel your "pain." :-)
Sep 18, 2019 18:28:22   #
knitwitgalaxy
 
Lovely work, so disappointing to be unused, rude to be still in the wrapping!
Sep 18, 2019 18:32:12   #
targa416 (a regular here)
 
So sorry your gifts were not unwrapped. I wonder if it might be better not to give those recipients more gifts until you know what their needs and tastes are. There’s no point in making gifts if the recipients don’t want or need them. It’s a lot of work.
Sep 18, 2019 18:48:16   #
Curmudgeon (a regular here)
 
My grandmother knit a cardigan for my son after he was born. I had his picture taken - professionally - and put the sweater away. I didn't want to spoil it. I still have the cardigan, and when we look at baby pictures, I bring it out and everyone ooooohs & aaaahs. "This is the sweater your great grandma made for you." It is a treasure - even if it didn't get used much.
Sep 18, 2019 18:54:19   #
dinnerontime (a regular here)
 
riggy wrote:
So, I knitted these and they've not been used. I'm upset as I found the shawl still in the packing that I used to give it. Grand daughter is now four months old so will not be using a of it. Boo hoo


I would ask for them back and give them to your granddaughter when she is old enough to appreciate that you made them especially for her. My daughter, (now 46) treasures the gifts that great grandmother and grandmother made for her. Except for some doll cloths, she has no recollection of them when she was little but love them.
 
Sep 18, 2019 18:54:56   #
kaixixang (a regular here)
 
I’m sure it is not true for every family.

Possibly the recipient has had multiple children and is worried about possible reaction to yarn/string...though I cannot see too many reacting to cotton. From my reading entries here on KP there are some of us who react to all animal fiber.

Happily I only react to over 15-30% non-merino sheep wool. Also, don’t send me anything washed with eucalyptus! The eucalyptus is an epi-pen situation where the non-merino is easy to avoid.

Also I don’t react to acrylic and other potential latex related man-made fiber. Count my blessings!
Sep 18, 2019 18:58:54   #
Lilyan (a regular here)
 
Just because it was not used, does not mean that it was not appreciated. Sometimes things are so precious that they are kept forever. Please do not be upset.
Sep 18, 2019 19:07:35   #
tdorminey (a regular here)
 
A large number of KPers seem to be in the 65+ bracket, which means we grew up in a different world - clothing styles, life styles, and everything else has changed. Morals, standards, priorities, manners, behaviors, expectations, values, all are now so foreign to me. The 1940's and 50's formed us to fit into our parents' world. Then, while we weren't looking, busy raising our own families, the world we knew quietly slipped into the past, leaving us wondering what happened to our comfort zones. Most children over the age of 6 don't recognize the value of "made just for you, Love, Grandma." They want to wear what everyone else is wearing so they fit in. Can you imagine a young woman of today at a 1950's bridal or baby shower? With our white gloves, hats, games and doilies? Talk about LMAO!

It's sad that so much of our culture is lost with so little good to replace it. We now have Madonna, Miley Cyrus and Kartrashions as role models. We have to learn to live in their world. Just don't expect it to not hurt sometimes.
Sep 18, 2019 19:30:02   #
fortunate1 (a regular here)
 
I made my first GS a quilt, every stitch hand done, and gifted it to my daughter at the baby shower. \
One night baby sitting I saw it in the babies room still in the gift bag. I never said a word, but it hurt my feelings. Fast forward....graduating high school, and we are all sitting at the bar b q, when my daughter presented him with a huge box, inside was his baby book, the quilt I had made, and several other "special " things as she called them. She put all those things back, and kept them for him 18 yrs, so he would know how loved he was, as he was leaving high school and embarking on his adulthood. I cried, my mom cried, heck we all cried, and I felt like a heel for having hurt feelings upon finding it. So never jump to conclusions...we never know what is in store. She did the same for her daughter, and upon graduating high school, she got her "special" box.
What a great way, to remind your kids as they are leaving home, just how much they are loved!
Sep 18, 2019 19:33:21   #
possumlj (a regular here)
 
I was taught that when I give a Gift, I let go of all expectations when I hand it over. Otherwise it is a bribe or something.
This is hard to do. But a true gift has no strings attached. They can throw it in the trash or give it to charity if they want. My pleasure should come from making it and giving it, not in being showered with praise.
Having said that, if they don't appreciate it, I don't give them anything else.
 
Sep 18, 2019 20:21:35   #
bakrmom
 
The shawl looks like the type used for Baptism or a Christening. Not one that would get daily use. As far as the bears and smaller blanket? Blanket can still be used as a lovey/blankie as baby gets older. A four month old really isn't playing with toys yet.
Sep 18, 2019 20:41:31   #
TexasKnitem (a regular here)
 
Double ditto!
crispie wrote:
They are all lovely, but don't fret. This happens to so many of us. I have whittled down the list of people I will send hand-knitted items to. Don't be too hard on the recipient-- having a new little one takes up a lot of time, and maybe that is the reason. I, now, directly (and nicely) talk to the recipient and just ask them to return the item, since they don't seem to be able to use it. Your work is lovely and there is someone out there who would love to have the items. I know you put a whole lot of love/work in these, but many people do not realize how much work was needed to create these. Take heart..... we feel your "pain." :-)
They are all lovely, but don't fret. This happens... (show quote)
Sep 18, 2019 20:52:17   #
bokemom (a regular here)
 
Looking at the lovely things you made they might of fallen into the too beautiful to use trap. It seems to happen whenever someone does fancy things . The recipient feels it's so precious they put it up for special occasions and then of course it never gets used. Have a honest talk with the parents, let them know you make things to be used. Honesty is always easier in the long run, even if it stings a little at the time.
Sep 18, 2019 20:57:47   #
vlsg56
 
New moms don't cover their babies with blankets until they are a few months old; old enough to pull the blanket off their face if necessary. So your blanket (which is beautiful) may still be used. On the other hand, I have been trying to not take others reactions to my knitting, with a grain of salt. It always seems as if I appreciate the item more than the recipient, so I am trying to derive pleasure from the knitting (or sewing) of the item. The new way of thinking is in hope of preventing accidental crib deaths.

Vickie
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