Am I wrong to be offended

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ggmomliz

Discussion Starter · Aug 11, 2016

I just need some opinions from around the world. This is the sign that has been posted outside of a church I drive by. The sign has been posted for over a year, once in a while they will put up something else for a week or two then revert to this. I have to pass this church on my way to town and back every time I go out. because of the rural area, the only way to avoid it is to go north into KY then around to the interstate, adding over 20 miles to my trip.
I am deeply offended by the sign, the first time I saw it I was so upset that I was shaking. A young man who works at the library told me that he called the church to complain and was hung up on.

Please note the name of the church as well.

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Plays with Fibers

· #41 · Aug 11, 2016

ggmomliz said:
Just out of curiosity I called a friend who happens to be a Baptist minister in another church. He told me that the one at the church in question advises the men in his congregation to rule their households with "a raised fist" , his words. Probably part of the same group I had a problem with at work some years back. A Baptist minister that was a regular customer happened to notice the Star of David I wore around my neck and started screaming at me that I needed to drop to my knees and kiss his feet and beg for forgiveness so I could be saved. He knew that if I said anything I would be fired for talking back to a customer.... isn't such open mindedness beautiful? LOL

Rule with a "raised fist"?? Our congregation had a minister like that. He also preached a lot of other Old Testament prohibitions that we now see as violating the civil rights of our fellow citizens. We got fed up with the hatred spewing from him, gave him 3 months salary and set him packing. We lost a few members and gained even more. It was like we moved from the moldy dungeon into the sunshine.
Adding: Good job for holding your tongue and not kicking that minister customer in the balls. What an ass.

barbarafletcher

· #42 · Aug 11, 2016

Yes that's BAD....

Clancy P

· #43 · Aug 11, 2016

CarolfromTX said:
I don't particularly agree with this sign, but I don't find it offensive. I think too many people are "offended" by inconsequential stuff. The world is not always going to conform to your standards, nor should it have to. As long as you're not a member of that congregation, I don't see a problem. Get over it and move on.

Well said, Carol.

painthoss

· #44 · Aug 11, 2016

peacegoddess said:
The words of god are often used to justify the oppression of women and other people.

:sm24: :sm24: :sm24:

painthoss

· #45 · Aug 11, 2016

Earth Mother, these are hysterical!

Anne in Dunedin

· #46 · Aug 11, 2016

Why are you offended? I do not like the sign however you cannot have it both ways. You cannot have free speech and then tell people what that can
think and say. If it offends you then just keep your eyes on the road and do not look at it.

ggmomliz

Discussion Starter · #47 · Aug 11, 2016

I find it offensive to all women. He does have the right to say it, I never said that he didn't. A person has the right to stand on a street corner and call out the"N" word as well. I am sure most would find that offensive.
Unfortunately the sign is a few feet from the church's hidden driveway on a road with a 55MPH speed limit. It's hard to not notice the sign when checking for cars but I try my best. Of course, my grandson who is frequently in the car with me feels the need to read all the marques out loud. Usually they are funny due to letters falling out. Here in the Bible belt I pass 14 churches on my 11 mile trek to the library.

deshka

· #48 · Aug 11, 2016

It is PART of a Bible verse. When you read part of something it can mean something else. I don't recall the rest of it, and not going to look it up. If I were so terrible offended I would just not look at it. In my younger days if I were so offended I 'might have put a rock through it'. or might not, depending how I felt.

twinkles

· #49 · Aug 11, 2016

ggmomliz said:
I find it offensive to all women. .

Maybe it's an issue that you have to deal with. Assuming it's offensive to all women is a stretch on your part and simply not true. How many times are posters here told "don't look". You agreed with another poster on SL's Paddy jokes thread that if they were offended not to read them. Take the advice of others on this thread and don't read it. Simple

Dangrktty

· #50 · Aug 11, 2016

Earth Mother said:
If this was in England somebody would have got at that and changed it by now!

:sm02: :sm02: :sm02: :sm23: :sm23: :sm23:

no1girl

· #51 · Aug 11, 2016

Jane421 said:
BWAAA HAAA HAA! Maybe the pastor is having problems with his "upitty" wife! I find signs like these HILARIOUS and certainly don't take offense. The " Free Will" bit is the cherry on top. I drive by a church with " Liberty" incongruously included in the title that also puts up boards like this. I just laugh and flip 'em the bird as I drive by! I mean, if that's the way they want to live, let them. I don't see anything offensive.....just pure gold comedic material!

I agree.I laughed out loud when I saw this.................... I am not a shrinking violet, I am a SUNFLOWER!

rosebud6

· #52 · Aug 11, 2016

Very offensive regardless of Barbara's answer!

knitnanny

· #53 · Aug 11, 2016

I would be offended too as I worked with women who were being abused. I would let them know even if they hung up on me. I find doing nothing gets me frustrated...

run4fittness

· #54 · Aug 11, 2016

I would be offended also. Get a bunch of ladies to sign a petition to take it down.

berigora

· #55 · Aug 11, 2016

Not offended. But I would not be attending that church either. Each to her/his own, and there is such a thing as choice!

granknits

· #56 · Aug 11, 2016

Joy Marshall said:
Is this a quote from somewhere in the bible? If so, it sounds like Old Testament stuff.
I am positive Jesus never said anything like this, or his disciples either. Not sure about Paul, though.

I think it was Paul who wrote it in a letter, he was known for not liking women. His opinion does not a commandment make. :sm23:

133163

· #57 · Aug 11, 2016

ggmomliz said:
I just need some opinions from around the world. This is the sign that has been posted outside of a church I drive by. The sign has been posted for over a year, once in a while they will put up something else for a week or two then revert to this. I have to pass this church on my way to town and back every time I go out. because of the rural area, the only way to avoid it is to go north into KY then around to the interstate, adding over 20 miles to my trip.
I am deeply offended by the sign, the first time I saw it I was so upset that I was shaking. A young man who works at the library told me that he called the church to complain and was hung up on.

Please note the name of the church as well.

This is always taken out of context. The husband is ordered to love his wife as he would love himself and to cherish her. I wish people would not use only half the commands. It is a terrible testimony and witness to everyone who sees this. What a shame.

williesmom

· #58 · Aug 12, 2016

CarolfromTX said:
I don't particularly agree with this sign, but I don't find it offensive. I think too many people are "offended" by inconsequential stuff. The world is not always going to conform to your standards, nor should it have to. As long as you're not a member of that congregation, I don't see a problem. Get over it and move on.

Amen!

windowwonde28941

· #59 · Aug 12, 2016

It will not bother me at all .
If people that go there are not bother nether will I.
In my religion it says for the women to obey you husband .....but it also says for the husband to leave his family and be one with his wife .
It says for him to love his wife as Jesus loved the church .
You see in this country you have choices.
I do have enought at home to deal with ....

williesmom

· #60 · Aug 12, 2016

charbaby said:
WOW. Begging forgiveness for being of the same faith as the man he believes is the Messiah & his Savior? I'm 65 & was taught in 7th grade by a holy priest that Judaism is our faith's parent & as such needs to be understood, loved & respected. Father Reis spent that year teaching us with his philosophy that if you don't understand that faith, it's history & the culture & time Jesus lived in, you can't understand what he is saying & therefore can't deepen your own belief. God bless you for holding your tongue. I'm sorry that happened to you.

Father Reis sounds like a very wise man.

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