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Is it expecting too much that the recipients of items we spend time and money making at least have the good manners to acknowledge receiving them? Isent two boxes of knitted items off about six weeks ago and included my name ,address and email address and I'm still just assuming they rec. them. It's not the lack of a thank you that bothers me. I'd just like to know they got there. Guess I'll donate at home as it cost $12 to ship the boxes.
 

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No, you are not asking too much. I find this happened all the time with the first couple of swaps I belonged to. Then I joined Mama879's swap. She is a real gem and does her absolute best to keep everyone on track and polite. Of course she has an awesome helper, maureenb, who picks up and makes us all do the right thing. That is the very least we should expect from our recipients, a simple thank you. They took the time to open the box, they can take the time to thank you. It really hurts when you spend for the delivery confirmation and see where it has been delivered and you wait and wait for the thank you. Always makes me feel as though they didn't like what I sent. Doesn't happen much at all with Mama's swap though and for that I am grateful.
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Is it expecting too much that the recipients of items we spend time and money making at least have the good manners to acknowledge receiving them? Isent two boxes of knitted items off about six weeks ago and included my name ,address and email address and I'm still just assuming they rec. them. It's not the lack of a thank you that bothers me. I'd just like to know they got there. Guess I'll donate at home as it cost $12 to ship the boxes.
 

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I agree that we don't do it for the thank you, but I still expect a thank you, it's only common courtesy. I sent over $750.00 worth of hand-knitted items to a charity and while I have post office confirmation of them receiving them, there was never a thank you. They will not be getting anything else from me, I've chosen a charity that appreciates the gift and acknowledges it.
 

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Wow! I don't blame you in the least. How sad a comment on that charity. So many people will be missing out on your generosity because of a few. Glad you have found a new one though who will appreciate your talents.
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I agree that we don't do it for the thank you, but I still expect a thank you, it's only common courtesy. I sent over $750.00 worth of hand-knitted items to a charity and while I have post office confirmation of them receiving them, there was never a thank you. They will not be getting anything else from me, I've chosen a charity that appreciates the gift and acknowledges it.
 

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beejay said:
... Guess I'll donate at home as it cost $12 to ship the boxes.
More than the lack of acknowledgement of reception or a thank you of anysort, my reason for keeping donations local is simply that I would rather spend my money on yarn than postage. Add to that the fact that when an item (more like a bagful) is handed over to the intended charity's representative, I know it has been received, and my presence assures that I'll hear a thank you, however brief. Effusiveness is unnecessary.
 

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I don't think you are asking too much. I just mailed a project today. I crocheted an afgan for my friend who got a new sofa. When I mailed it, I paid the 75 cents for a delivery confirmation. I'm sure she will let me know when it gets there, but this way I can track it myself.

I can't even imagine receiving anything from any of my friends and not calling them when it arrives. :|

And I could kick myself on this one because I already had it in the box all taped up and addressed and ready to leave for the post office when I remembered I hadn't taken a pic. :cry: So when she calls me to let me know it got there, I'm going to ask her to take a pic and e-mail it to me. :mrgreen:
 

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Its only good manners to say Thank You for items that have taken you hours of work and loads of love to create and freely give to others So I'm thanking you on behalf of those ungrateful recipients THANK YOU for all you do for others in need
 

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Unfortunately it's not unusual for people to not acknowledge receipt of gifts. I recently sent a baby blanket that I knitted for my first grandchild. Spent a lot of hours knitting it . . . advised that I was mailing it and never heard a word back. I even wrote and asked if it got there and heard nothing back. I've learned my lesson. From now on I will get a "delivery confirmation" for packages. Has really bummed me out and I don't even feel like knitting now. : (
 

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I, too, have given knitted items, mittens, to a local charity. For 2 years, I carry in a box full of pairs of mittens. They take them and give a quiet small thank you. Nobody gushes or oohs, nor do they tell me how wonderful or cute they are. Last year the gal said "Great, we have a coat give-away tomorrow, these are just in time."

When I decided to knit mittens for kids I also decided to be VERY anonymous. It is my hope to someday see a kid in the city wearing a pair of my mittens. And then I'll just smile knowing my efforts were indeed worth it.
 

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I recently donated a large bag of yarn and several sets of old straight needles to Community Center that had started a group for the women in the area to knit caps and mittens for their families and learn how to knit to boot! I met her in person in a parking lot of a laundramat! She was very happy with what she received and I was able to learn more about her program.
 

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nbaker said:
I, too, have given knitted items, mittens, to a local charity. For 2 years, I carry in a box full of pairs of mittens. They take them and give a quiet small thank you. Nobody gushes or oohs, nor do they tell me how wonderful or cute they are. Last year the gal said "Great, we have a coat give-away tomorrow, these are just in time."

When I decided to knit mittens for kids I also decided to be VERY anonymous. It is my hope to someday see a kid in the city wearing a pair of my mittens. And then I'll just smile knowing my efforts were indeed worth it.
That is very special of you. Have you seen any of your mittens yet?
 

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nbaker said:
I, too, have given knitted items, mittens, to a local charity. For 2 years, I carry in a box full of pairs of mittens. They take them and give a quiet small thank you. Nobody gushes or oohs, nor do they tell me how wonderful or cute they are. Last year the gal said "Great, we have a coat give-away tomorrow, these are just in time."

When I decided to knit mittens for kids I also decided to be VERY anonymous. It is my hope to someday see a kid in the city wearing a pair of my mittens. And then I'll just smile knowing my efforts were indeed worth it.
I don't think the majority of us wants "oohs and aahs", but we deserve a polite "thank you".
 

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laurelarts said:
I agree that we don't do it for the thank you, but I still expect a thank you, it's only common courtesy. I sent over $750.00 worth of hand-knitted items to a charity and while I have post office confirmation of them receiving them, there was never a thank you. They will not be getting anything else from me, I've chosen a charity that appreciates the gift and acknowledges it.
laurelarts, I would write that charity and let them know that their lack of manners just lost them any further knitted contributions from you. A simple pre-printed thank you note or an email thank you would have been appreciated.
 

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laurelarts said:
I agree that we don't do it for the thank you, but I still expect a thank you, it's only common courtesy. I sent over $750.00 worth of hand-knitted items to a charity and while I have post office confirmation of them receiving them, there was never a thank you. They will not be getting anything else from me, I've chosen a charity that appreciates the gift and acknowledges it.
laurelarts, I would write that charity and let them know that their lack of manners just lost them any further knitted contributions from you. A simple pre-printed thank you note or an email thank you would have been appreciated.
That's a good idea. The thing is, they solicited me, called me and asked if they could be a recipient. I guess it's almost a duty to teach good manners, hopefully someone will learn from it.
 

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This happens to me all the time. Wedding gifts, shower gifts, baby gifts, the list goes on and on. And I can't exclude family either. Many of my nieces and nephews have yet to acknowledge gifts. I think society in general is rude these days. People seldom hold or open a door for you anynore, even if they see you have your hands full.
I donate scarves, afghans, etc. at Christmas time to the homeless Vietman vets. The Marines usually pick them up when they pick up Toys for Tots from an organization my DH belongs to and we get many thanks from them. But you rarely hear anyone say a simple "thank you" anymore and when I say it people seem surprised. It's pretty sad ! ! !
Sorry - - I seem to have started to preach. Shouldn't have started on this one:( Arrrgh !
 
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