I get very angry when I read some of your posts. You have two adult children living in your home. Unless they are paying the standard rent rate and also contributing to your grocery budget, they need to get off their kiesters and help. You apparently do everyone's laundry, fold it and probably at least put it on their bed if you don't actually put it where it belongs in each individual's room. Their idea of because you are home, you should be their maid is a big bunch of crap. My kids were cleaning the bathrooms, and their own rooms and taking turns doing the dishes from 10 years old. It is going to be mighty hard to ever get them to act like adults now after all these years of coddling. It also sounds like you get absolutely no encouragement from DH either. I hope it isn't too late for them to start treating you with the respect that you deserve.