I hope this is not too long. Cousin in Malta, 50th wedding anniversary celebrates with his family at a restaurant which he pays for. Then he invites his neighbors to restaurant (19) which he also pays for. He comes to the US for a holiday, staying with my brother. We have been over to see him a couple of times, we get on well. Tonight he is coming to my house to celebrate my sons 51st birthday. Also there will be my grandson, another son and wife, plus my daughter and partner. Saturday my son and wife have invited everyone over for a pool party and bbq. Cousin announced today that he wants to celebrate his 50th with the family in the US, so is organizing a restaurant meal which he invited my husband and I. He has invited also my brother and wife, his eldest daughter along with her 22 year old son and eighteen year old daughter. My brothers middle daughter, partner and 15 year old daughter. And lastly his youngest daughter and husband.but my children, partners and grandson are not invited. My reaction is I do not want to go, if my kids are not welcome then neither am I. It's a dilemma.