[sam0767]

Do you folks think I should have a reason to be afraid? I live in a apartment complex and love it here. Our entrance doirs go out into a breezeway so we are not in a hall way then exit out side. My neighbor across from me has some mental issues and had become friends at 1 point. I started teaching her to knit. She was doung really good. She had sone kind of beakdown and was taken to hospital by ambulance. I do assisted living/direct care as a job and at that time my program was in the apartment in front of mine. As they took her out to the ambulance sge gave me the finger. Very early that next morning around 6 am she began texting me blaming me for calling the police on her abd having her taken away. This went on for 2 hours. 4 months later she apoliged to me and expected me to accept ger apoligy which I did but the friendship we had would not be the same as it was because of the horriable things she said to me and called ne such ad The Devils Daughter and me being evil. And other things. I say hi to her when I see her and acknowledge her dog.
She left for almost a week ago and got back Thurs night. The young guy that lives above her works for the complex in maintance abd she has been putting in complaints about him being loud and dusturbing her peace and quiet. Dosent like the young guy that lives above me because he has a big dog. Getting to my point here. Last night I went to the store and when I came back saw my neighbir that lives up front and her dog abd talked with her a min on my way back to my apt. As I was unlocking my door she opened her door and started in on me. Asking me if Karen up front was asking about where my beighbors dog was. I told her no Karen was asking about Gregs dog. She started in on me and went almost crazy. Stated she just got out of hospital from having surgery and needs rest and quiet to recover and she went on and on. I vegan to get a bit concerned because of her bidy language and way she was talking. I finally got away from her and came in my apt and as usual locked the door. I snuck upatairs and talked to Anthony about wgat is going on and he said he cant say much right now but she did not have surgery. I said she was taken to a hospital due ti ger menral state then. His look alone confirmed it. She told me that she has a lawsuit going on and a private investagater around here watching things and that we all better watch out. That I highly doubt. But do I gave reason to be concerned about her as I wirk mostly afternoons and dont get home until 11pm? I keep things locked up wgen Im not home. Iam feeling a bit concerned for my safety.

 

[jadancey]

Oh dear, that is scary. Does she have any family you could talk to. Sounds like she needs help.

 

[SKRB]

Your neighbor is mentally ill. She has a chemical imbalance, when she is off her medication she is not the same person you know. Your situation is difficult. Avoid being alone with her.

 

[morningstar]

Do you folks think I should have a reason to be afraid? I live in a apartment complex and love it here. Our entrance doirs go out into a breezeway so we are not in a hall way then exit out side. My neighbor across from me has some mental issues and had become friends at 1 point. I started teaching her to knit. She was doung really good. She had sone kind of beakdown and was taken to hospital by ambulance. I do assisted living/direct care as a job and at that time my program was in the apartment in front of mine. As they took her out to the ambulance sge gave me the finger. Very early that next morning around 6 am she began texting me blaming me for calling the police on her abd having her taken away. This went on for 2 hours. 4 months later she apoliged to me and expected me to accept ger apoligy which I did but the friendship we had would not be the same as it was because of the horriable things she said to me and called ne such ad The Devils Daughter and me being evil. And other things. I say hi to her when I see her and acknowledge her dog.
She left for almost a week ago and got back Thurs night. The young guy that lives above her works for the complex in maintance abd she has been putting in complaints about him being loud and dusturbing her peace and quiet. Dosent like the young guy that lives above me because he has a big dog. Getting to my point here. Last night I went to the store and when I came back saw my neighbir that lives up front and her dog abd talked with her a min on my way back to my apt. As I was unlocking my door she opened her door and started in on me. Asking me if Karen up front was asking about where my beighbors dog was. I told her no Karen was asking about Gregs dog. She started in on me and went almost crazy. Stated she just got out of hospital from having surgery and needs rest and quiet to recover and she went on and on. I vegan to get a bit concerned because of her bidy language and way she was talking. I finally got away from her and came in my apt and as usual locked the door. I snuck upatairs and talked to Anthony about wgat is going on and he said he cant say much right now but she did not have surgery. I said she was taken to a hospital due ti ger menral state then. His look alone confirmed it. She told me that she has a lawsuit going on and a private investagater around here watching things and that we all better watch out. That I highly doubt. But do I gave reason to be concerned about her as I wirk mostly afternoons and dont get home until 11pm? I keep things locked up wgen Im not home. Iam feeling a bit concerned for my safety.

It is obvious that this person is suffering from delusions and is either not taking her meds or her meds have not been appropriately prescribed. Her actions give you a reason to report her in the spirit of hoping this triggers her getting appropriate care. Find out where and how you can do this...mental health system, senior services, etc. She will not know that you were behind it. Her accusations are part of her very horrible condition. It can be treated and controlled so that she can lead a more peaceful life. She may be one of many that should be placed in a supervised group home. If things become extreme, do not hesitate to call the police. They will take her to a hospital emergency room where she can be given a mental health evaluation.

 

[raedean]

sounds like she needs to keep taking her medications.
sounds like she still needs to be in the hospital.
sounds like i would be cautious.i would wave but keep a safe distance.
friendly but not friends.
sometimes when mentally ill are off medications...they are not themselves.maybe she is not convinced she really needs them but she does.
prayers for u .

 

[CuriousKitty]

Yep...agree...keep as much distance as possible. They may not mean what they do, but I doesn't negate the fact something negative is happening and happens...Unfortunately, others need to be made aware, for all your safety, and peace of mind...Good luck and hope it gets resolved. That's no way to live...

 

[Marileen]

Your neighbor is mentally ill. She has a chemical imbalance, when she is off her medication she is not the same person you know. Your situation is difficult. Avoid being alone with her.

I think the same....

I wouldn't want to be alone with her ....... br.....scary

 

[Twoie]

I know it will be difficult, but ignore her. Go out of your way to avoid her. If you can't, try to have someone with you and then she may not choose to engage you on some imagined issue. Mental illness can be exquisitely painful and dangerous. Good luck. Prayers.
Linda

 

[Valkyrie]

Yes, you should be afraid. In fact, I would move rather than tolerate the situation. Do I blame her? No, she is mentally ill and is apparently going through a protracted phase of psychosis. But you don't want to be collateral damage during her spells. Call 911 immediately if she threatens you. Then maybe she will be forced to get the help she needs and you will be safer.
My heart goes out to you during this scary time.

 

[Eileen E]

That's a hard decision. We have had many people with mental problems living with us since 1977. You were very kind to her and it seems that they blame those that they are closest to. Perhaps she quit taking her meds. Hospitals/institutions can usually only keep them a short while unless they admit they need help...and they usually don't admit that. I, myself would not be afraid but you have to do what you feel is best. You should never be afraid in your own home.
I could tell you many experiences through these many years! We only have one at this time and he has been here 28 years. He has anger issues too. Another man was here 30 years and died at age 97. Some hear messages from God and some from Satan. God would never tell him to do the things he "heard".
My husband and I are not young anymore so will not take any more people although we often are asked.
This is probably no help to you. Sometimes carrying a little pepper spray doesn't hurt.

 

[seamer45]

I'd be sure to get the management of your apartment complex informed and the local police. Do talk to social services, you may be glad you did if she really goes off the rails.

 

[DonnieK]

Hold the phone here! We are hearing only one side of this story and judging someone without full knowledge. If you are having problems in your complex, go to management and file a formal complaint, then file a complaint with the police if you are in fear. It it better to try being nice than trying to ignore. You were her friend before she got "ill" and why should you stop being her friend. Would you stop being her friend if she got cancer or lupus or some other illness? People need friends and apparently from what you say, she has no one. Think of how alone and scared she must be. Do you go to church? If so, maybe a pastor could go and visit with her and let her know that she is never alone and always has someone who is willing to listen. I think this would be a better way than making matters worse by ignoring her or talking about her behind her back. To have a friend, you must be a friend. I do not mean to be offensive, I just know there are always two sides to a story and if as you say, you were her friend before she got ill, you should not be harboring ill feelings toward her for the things she did that are caused from her illness. Be her friend now as well as yesterday when she was well.

 

[CuriousKitty]

Hold the phone here! We are hearing only one side of this story and judging someone without full knowledge. If you are having problems in your complex, go to management and file a formal complaint, then file a complaint with the police if you are in fear. It it better to try being nice than trying to ignore. You were her friend before she got "ill" and why should you stop being her friend. Would you stop being her friend if she got cancer or lupus or some other illness? People need friends and apparently from what you say, she has no one. Think of how alone and scared she must be. Do you go to church? If so, maybe a pastor could go and visit with her and let her know that she is never alone and always has someone who is willing to listen. I think this would be a better way than making matters worse by ignoring her or talking about her behind her back. To have a friend, you must be a friend. I do not mean to be offensive, I just know there are always two sides to a story and if as you say, you were her friend before she got ill, you should not be harboring ill feelings toward her for the things she did that are caused from her illness. Be her friend now as well as yesterday when she was well.

Thanks for bringing it in perspective...so true...at least two sides to everything...

 

[graymist]

Mental illness is a very complex thing. I would suggest you contact your local mental illness advocate or group. They will help you find ways to handle such situations. You can learn ways to remain friendly & the proper time to back off. I'm sorry but the complex gossip trail is not the way to go.

 

[anncarley]

Mental illness is a very complex thing. I would suggest you contact your local mental illness advocate or group. They will help you find ways to handle such situations. You can learn ways to remain friendly & the proper time to back off. I'm sorry but the complex gossip trail is not the way to go.

I so agree. Much better to get some professional help from those who have the knowledge and experience in handling situations such as you describe. Also getting information from someone who through face to face contact, can better understand you and your particular situation would be most helpful.

 

[ann seal]

the best thing that happened to us was when my BFF called our son & told him I shouldn't be driving a car anymore. [I was in denial.] 3 kids moved us here & we gave our car to our son. We have a 'visiting angel' that runs us to Doc. &/or store once a week....
all that leads up to = report her to whatever agency is available. She needs tender, loving care!! And you need peace of mind. CALL! ann

 

[sam0767]

Hold the phone here! We are hearing only one side of this story and judging someone without full knowledge. If you are having problems in your complex, go to management and file a formal complaint, then file a complaint with the police if you are in fear. It it better to try being nice than trying to ignore. You were her friend before she got "ill" and why should you stop being her friend. Would you stop being her friend if she got cancer or lupus or some other illness? People need friends and apparently from what you say, she has no one. Think of how alone and scared she must be. Do you go to church? If so, maybe a pastor could go and visit with her and let her know that she is never alone and always has someone who is willing to listen. I think this would be a better way than making matters worse by ignoring her or talking about her behind her back. To have a friend, you must be a friend. I do not mean to be offensive, I just know there are always two sides to a story and if as you say, you were her friend before she got ill, you should not be harboring ill feelings toward her for the things she did that are caused from her illness. Be her friend now as well as yesterday when she was well.

Oh I'm not ignoring her. I have been saying Hi to her wgen I see her out on her patio or walking through the breezeway. She has had mental issues since she moved in. Several things she has done and said in the past made me realize that. I offered to teach het to knit to maybe help her some. And it did. But when she had her breakdown she gave it up.
The office is very well aware of whats going on with her. This last breajdown she had at the office. What she told me Fri git a little twisted from her as I did a littke inquiring in things just so I understood things. Friday I saw a very diffrent person when she was talking with me. Sge talks very softly and quietly. Fri she was talking loudly. The look on her eyes were totally diffrent. The fact that she questioned meabout a conversation fron the other end of the breezeway kinda made me question whether she is listening in on peoples conversations. She told me she has hired a PI abd this building is being watched and ecerykbe us getting sued in my building for various things. I know she disent hace that kind of money and gets SSI and various assistance. One of themaintance guys that works at the complex lives above her abd alrhough he cant say much about the breakdown at the office but told ne the office saw a diffrent side of her and are keeping a eye on her. So tgat is a good thing. They were the ones that called tbe police abd ambulance.

 

[sam0767]

Hold the phone here! We are hearing only one side of this story and judging someone without full knowledge. If you are having problems in your complex, go to management and file a formal complaint, then file a complaint with the police if you are in fear. It it better to try being nice than trying to ignore. You were her friend before she got "ill" and why should you stop being her friend. Would you stop being her friend if she got cancer or lupus or some other illness? People need friends and apparently from what you say, she has no one. Think of how alone and scared she must be. Do you go to church? If so, maybe a pastor could go and visit with her and let her know that she is never alone and always has someone who is willing to listen. I think this would be a better way than making matters worse by ignoring her or talking about her behind her back. To have a friend, you must be a friend. I do not mean to be offensive, I just know there are always two sides to a story and if as you say, you were her friend before she got ill, you should not be harboring ill feelings toward her for the things she did that are caused from her illness. Be her friend now as well as yesterday when she was well.

Oh I'm not ignoring her. I have been saying Hi to her wgen I see her out on her patio or walking through the breezeway. She has had mental issues since she moved in. Several things she has done and said in the past made me realize that. I offered to teach het to knit to maybe help her some. And it did. But when she had her breakdown she gave it up.
The office is very well aware of whats going on with her. This last breajdown she had at the office. What she told me Fri git a little twisted from her as I did a littke inquiring in things just so I understood things. Friday I saw a very diffrent person when she was talking with me. Sge talks very softly and quietly. Fri she was talking loudly. The look on her eyes were totally diffrent. The fact that she questioned meabout a conversation fron the other end of the breezeway kinda made me question whether she is listening in on peoples conversations. She told me she has hired a PI abd this building is being watched and ecerykbe us getting sued in my building for various things. I know she disent hace that kind of money and gets SSI and various assistance. One of themaintance guys that works at the complex lives above her abd alrhough he cant say much about the breakdown at the office but told ne the office saw a diffrent side of her and are keeping a eye on her. So tgat is a good thing. They were the ones that called tbe police abd ambulance.

 

[sam0767]

Hold the phone here! We are hearing only one side of this story and judging someone without full knowledge. If you are having problems in your complex, go to management and file a formal complaint, then file a complaint with the police if you are in fear. It it better to try being nice than trying to ignore. You were her friend before she got "ill" and why should you stop being her friend. Would you stop being her friend if she got cancer or lupus or some other illness? People need friends and apparently from what you say, she has no one. Think of how alone and scared she must be. Do you go to church? If so, maybe a pastor could go and visit with her and let her know that she is never alone and always has someone who is willing to listen. I think this would be a better way than making matters worse by ignoring her or talking about her behind her back. To have a friend, you must be a friend. I do not mean to be offensive, I just know there are always two sides to a story and if as you say, you were her friend before she got ill, you should not be harboring ill feelings toward her for the things she did that are caused from her illness. Be her friend now as well as yesterday when she was well.

Oh I'm not ignoring her. I have been saying Hi to her wgen I see her out on her patio or walking through the breezeway. She has had mental issues since she moved in. Several things she has done and said in the past made me realize that. I offered to teach het to knit to maybe help her some. And it did. But when she had her breakdown she gave it up.
The office is very well aware of whats going on with her. This last breajdown she had at the office. What she told me Fri git a little twisted from her as I did a littke inquiring in things just so I understood things. Friday I saw a very diffrent person when she was talking with me. Sge talks very softly and quietly. Fri she was talking loudly. The look on her eyes were totally diffrent. The fact that she questioned meabout a conversation fron the other end of the breezeway kinda made me question whether she is listening in on peoples conversations. She told me she has hired a PI abd this building is being watched and ecerykbe us getting sued in my building for various things. I know she disent hace that kind of money and gets SSI and various assistance. One of themaintance guys that works at the complex lives above her abd alrhough he cant say much about the breakdown at the office but told ne the office saw a diffrent side of her and are keeping a eye on her. So tgat is a good thing. They were the ones that called tbe police abd ambulance.