Bonnie--based on how i see others respond, I think my understanding and response to your DIL's unhappy experience is quite different. I am sorry she was the recipient of hostile behavior. That is never comfortable. However, given the virulence of racism against Native Americans in Canada as well as in the US, I also understand the anger that many Native Americans feel toward Caucasians who are the controlling group. The nature of racism is such that it is so embedded in the society that it is very hard to separate the individuals from the group that represents the power structure. I can say that more than once have I been in that same situation where the response was way more hostile and downright violent against me. There was one time that I was invited to participate in a group where some were not accepting and took out their historical pain and rage on me physically as I was in their territory and accessible. In that situation I was a lot closer than your DIL who was there as an outside vendor. I was living with these people and quite far from my home so there was no get in your car and drive home possibility. It was also very divisive for that group and they went thru their changes just as I had to resolve my feelings. But they were not going to do that in front of me. Believe it or not, I was invited back the next year and did go. I was assured that the offending person had been dealt with and the group would not allow such a reaction again. Having much experience in dealing with racism from many sides, I saw how difficult it was for them to resolve this situation within themselves. For my part it took some soul searching to keep perspective and see the problem from the bigger picture and know that it was not me personally, but the conditions of our society that understandably cause pain and distrust. I would venture a guess that the NA people went thru their own internal discussions over the situation with your DIL. And I can tell you that I have seen the same behavior when dealing with radical feminists years ago when even male babies were not allowed in women's spaces. That may sound strange to you but it was not to people who were processing their own rage over the sexism that prevailed, and still does. Many of these women were survivors of rape and other forms or assault and repression. The women's movement went thru a period when it needed to take a separatist position while working thru the historical roots of oppression. Not wanting to get heavily into this so my few words here may not communicate what I wish them to do, but hope this provides some thought for greater understanding and perspective. Without confronting the roots of these problems and taking collective responsibility we will never be able to resolve them and that i know unequivocally.