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Wow that is so true, lost my husband of 49 years to cancer 10 days before Christmas.
Sending those of you who are on this journey dealing with grief a big hug.
 

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I would like to share a tip to help you when you have lost a loved one. I met a woman about a year after my husband died. She had lost her husband several years before and told me how keeping a journal helped her. So at night before going to sleep I would write in a journal. Anything that I would normally share with him about my day, or things that we would have discussed like needing a new roof etc. At first I talked/wrote mostly to him about how much I missed him and how unfair it was that he died so young, leaving me a widow at 50. This tapered off and my entries became less sad. Sometimes I would cry the whole time I was writing and other times I would laugh until I was crying. We only had one granddaughter that he got to know before he died. I wrote about the births of the next 2 granddaughters that he would never meet. My husband died 13yrs ago and I still write in it occasionally. Mostly about the girls. Losing their first tooth, getting an award at school, hitting a home run in softball, what beautiful dancers the oldest and youngest are and how the middle one is so much like our daughter and loves to sing. This really helped me and it's something I would not have thought to do if my new friend had not suggested it. Just something to try if you are struggling with your loss.
 

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KLGGrammy said:
I would like to share a tip to help you when you have lost a loved one. I met a woman about a year after my husband died. She had lost her husband several years before and told me how keeping a journal helped her. So at night before going to sleep I would write in a journal. Anything that I would normally share with him about my day, or things that we would have discussed like needing a new roof etc. At first I talked/wrote mostly to him about how much I missed him and how unfair it was that he died so young, leaving me a widow at 50. This tapered off and my entries became less sad. Sometimes I would cry the whole time I was writing and other times I would laugh until I was crying. We only had one granddaughter that he got to know before he died. I wrote about the births of the next 2 granddaughters that he would never meet. My husband died 13yrs ago and I still write in it occasionally. Mostly about the girls. Losing their first tooth, getting an award at school, hitting a home run in softball, what beautiful dancers the oldest and youngest are and how the middle one is so much like our daughter and loves to sing. This really helped me and it's something I would not have thought to do if my new friend had not suggested it. Just something to try if you are struggling with your loss.
Great advice. It will also give you a permanent log of important dates for your family events. Thanks for sharing this.
 

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KLGGrammy said:
I would like to share a tip to help you when you have lost a loved one. I met a woman about a year after my husband died. She had lost her husband several years before and told me how keeping a journal helped her. So at night before going to sleep I would write in a journal. Anything that I would normally share with him about my day, or things that we would have discussed like needing a new roof etc. At first I talked/wrote mostly to him about how much I missed him and how unfair it was that he died so young, leaving me a widow at 50. This tapered off and my entries became less sad. Sometimes I would cry the whole time I was writing and other times I would laugh until I was crying. We only had one granddaughter that he got to know before he died. I wrote about the births of the next 2 granddaughters that he would never meet. My husband died 13yrs ago and I still write in it occasionally. Mostly about the girls. Losing their first tooth, getting an award at school, hitting a home run in softball, what beautiful dancers the oldest and youngest are and how the middle one is so much like our daughter and loves to sing. This really helped me and it's something I would not have thought to do if my new friend had not suggested it. Just something to try if you are struggling with your loss.
Thank you for that suggestion. I don't need it much right now (thank fully), but I'll keep it in mind, and I'll pass it along to others. My mother lost my father at 50. She missed him for the 50 and a half years she lived without him. My heart goes out to you.
 
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