Knitting in the Rockys wrote:
I never regretted doing it, I only wish I had been able to maintain better composure. It's not that I screamed or yelled, just that my language could have been better and I wish I would have been calmer. My parents pretty much sat there in shock. The incident did change the relationship I had with my parents. They measured their words more carefully and much spontaneity and candor was lost. It felt like they were tiptoeing around me after that.
But maybe if you had calmly told them off they might have brushed it off, laughed about it and there would be no resolution for you. My mother was very judgemental towards my kids and she had no filter so would say hurtful things to our girls. If we said anything to her she would laugh about it and tell us the girls need to toughen up. Even my dad tried to talk to her about her behaviour and she would laugh at him as well. My husband told her to stop and desist. After my dad passed away, she eventually moved in with us and my girls were almost adults. She picked up her habits and no matter what the girls said to her (some bad language included) she felt she had the right to attack the girls and me. My husband was the only person she would listen to so he sat her down and had a heart to heart with her. It was very simple - stop her behaviour or she goes into a nursing home. She knew he meant it. She walked on egg shells from then on and although her personality didn't change she left my kids alone. She lived with us for almost 5 years and we got to love eggs shells a lot. My dad and my in laws were so totally different - so kind, gentle and loving - which I think angered my mom even more. She has been gone now almost 15 years and of my 3 girls only one has not forgiven her. The other 2 have put it behind them and forgiven her. I have forgiven her as well. My husband told me that I had to let it go or it would consume me and I was having none of that. I hope you have piece of mind and have been able to have a happy life!!